跟贾陆英老师学《论语》为政篇第五章 2013年12月24日 圣诞快乐！

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, I4 G8 x, \, U# R3 ] mso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma;mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">孝，如今还在于与父母交心、沟通，体谅父母的难处，分担父母的责任。/ k! d$ k# C6 P' B, r u mso-font-kerning:0pt">——. R* I$ D- Y! E1 ?, cfont-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family:Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">对，这是从情感上关心父母，是尽孝的重要内容。生，事之以礼。死，葬之以礼，祭之以礼。1 E5 F' k, i! amso-font-kerning:0pt">——( q& r3 ^( Z5 \; b' B0 W font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma; 1 t* T. h/ e+ o! w3 A. K3 t4 q( bmso-bidi-font-family:Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">对父母的孝道，是义。如何尽孝，是礼。如何行礼，就是生而不违，去世行丧礼，祭祀行祭礼。《孝经》说：9 x6 J( f: i# ^, Y mso-font-kerning:0pt">“* g+ G/ {' n# T; V! _0 |! K+ j6 `% x$ Vfont-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma; 7 R! T1 Z" w/ t) b1 K* R( P+ I/ rmso-bidi-font-family:Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">礼者，敬而已矣。故敬其父，则子悦；敬其兄，则弟悦；敬其君，则臣悦；敬一人，而千万人悦。所敬者寡，而悦者众，此之谓要道也。& K- ?( R' w+ k6 |+ [3 u' S mso-font-kerning:0pt">”& I, r0 X' [! g$ H1 K font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma; * X+ J8 m, ]$ Z1 Mmso-bidi-font-family:Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">礼的内在依据是孝悌，而外在表现，就是一个0 O3 T# i4 J" F! N4 y$ X, Gmso-font-kerning:0pt">“: o7 { F6 @. d* H$ l font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family:Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">敬: s2 O; {- R- m3 y" n mso-font-kerning:0pt">”% n, W* ~% s; `% W4 R; Hfont-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma; 8 g7 E+ `; D" W; amso-bidi-font-family:Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">字。所以，如能尊敬他的父亲，那么其儿子就会喜悦；如能尊敬他的兄长，那么其弟弟就会喜悦；如能尊敬他的国君，那么其臣下就会喜悦。尊敬的是一个人，却能使千万人喜悦。所敬者虽然只是少数，而喜悦的人却有千千万万，这就是为什么把推行孝悌之道和礼乐教化称为+ I0 j7 s! m% _* Z7 h; }mso-font-kerning:0pt">“/ S5 E. U# r! ]* n" G1 Q/ x4 ffont-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma; # F; a- ^; @# @mso-bidi-font-family:Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">要道$ s8 U3 B7 r! x4 S" a- F7 B# Z mso-font-kerning:0pt">”% G* d5 G8 ]3 {. ]& x- w$ ufont-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma; 9 P: H' p3 \; A% A( a+ y/ vmso-bidi-font-family:Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">的意义所在啊。9 ^6 G6 `6 c5 e" w0 F mso-font-kerning:0pt">

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现在用法律手段规定子女要常回家看看，但是由于时间、金钱等各方面的原因，又有多少人是想回而不能回的呢，这个道德层面的问题上升到法律层面到底有什么意义，始终不大明白

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贾老师在研究古人和古汉语方面有研究，佩服

我这里显示也是一堆乱码，怎么回事

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贾老师讲的不错，学习了，谢谢

贾老师讲的不错，学习了，谢谢

我这里显示的是一堆乱码！！

不错，学习了，佩服佩服